Why Men Cheat (Exclusive)
DISCLAIMER
CHEATING IS ONLY DERIVED WHERE THERE IS A
LEGITIMATE AGREEMENT ON AN EXCLUSIVE BOND, MARRIAGE OR OTHERWISE. SO A
MAN IS NOT CHEATING ON YOU WHEN YOU HAVE SIX OTHER MEN.
Well……here it is……and it is not for the feeble minded.
Word of advice, get a bottle or cup of something because this is going to be massive.
Blame it on the genes
In troubled relationships, cheating can
be an easy alternative to the burden of a breakup or the agony of
divorce. It’s a quick fix for the sake of the couple’s or the family’s
integrity. Some of us have even gone so far as to enact the
long-distance code: If you cheat in another zip code, it doesn’t count.
And with evolutionary psychologists
telling us that we are wired to lay our seeds in as many women as
possible to ensure our genetic survival, adultery is slowly becoming a
defensible misdeed, which may explain why women are catching up to men
in the game of infidelity.
Now in descending order…….
19
Driven by caveman instincts
While on a superficial level men have
evolved from their hairy caveman days, the basic instincts have barely
changed since the days of being hunters with clubs! For thousands of
years a man’s job was to procreate as much as possible. Although in our
current times of over population and the cultural structure of one man
for one woman is accepted, at least in theory by men, the genetic and
primal instincts of the “hunter” in a man often drives them back to
giving in to those urges.
18
Competition and the wrong crowd
While this reason affects only a
minority of men, it still acts as a misguided catalyst to why men cheat.
If a man is surrounded by his friends who sleep around with other
women, he may subconsciously feel competitive and try and do the same to
be “in” with his crowd.
17
He is not who he seems to be
This man never intended to be
monogamous, despite taking a vow or making a commitment to do so. He
lacks empathy for his spouse, and he resentfully sees monogamy as
something to work around rather than respect. His need to get what he
wants when he wants it — and that supersedes the value he places on
intimacy and partnership.
16
He is unaware of his (and others) emotional needs
Until overwhelmed by them. This is the
guy who complains that he is not getting the same love, attention and
adoration from his spouse as he got when they were first dating. Feeling
trapped and drained, often longing for the courtship phase of his early
relationship, he will turn to the extensive use of online porn, affairs
and sensual massage to temporarily meet the emotional needs he may not
even know he has.
14
He is insecure
Feeling old, undesirable, unattractive,
unsuccessful, etc., this man uses affairs, prostitutes and other forms
of sexual intensity to reassure himself of his desirability and worth.
This man will often go to strip clubs, attempt to become that “special”
client to a particular prostitute, or otherwise seek situations that
provide external validation in an attempt to bolster his failing
self-esteem.
13
He is unhappy in his relationship.
The duality of security and excitement –
Most relationships after the first few years of passion dwindle down to
a mundane regularity of life’s struggles. The excitement and passion
that once existed is longer there. This can certainly be resolved but
requires the active work by both. Most couples fail to do that. However,
while the relationship might get rather boring, it provides the
important element of comfort and security to both. The man may have an
affair to inject the excitement that is missing with his current
partner, but at the same is hell bent on keeping it a secret as the fear
of destroying the security is too high.
This most common excuse for cheating
usually sounds something like the following: “If you had to live with my
wife/girlfriend/lover, you would cheat too. She’s gained weight, nags
me all the time AND she doesn’t want to have sex anymore. So what’s a
guy to do?” But in reality, no matter how logical or entertaining a
distraction infidelity may seem at the time,having sex or affairs when
unhappy with your spouse is an extremely unhealthy way to deal with
relationship problems.
12
He is a sex or love addict
This man uses sexual fantasy, urges and
behaviors as a way to self-soothe and self-medicate challenging life
stressors and strong emotions he finds difficult to tolerate. He uses
sex and romantic intensity to temporarily distract from emotional
emptiness and to avoid uncomfortable feelings. This man often has a long
history of unresolved childhood trauma or other underlying
psychological issues that cause him to rely on sexual intensity rather
than intimacy for emotional fulfillment.
11
Your sex life sucks
If a man has a disinterested partner or
isn’t getting enough sex to fulfill him, there is a good chance he will
have an affair. Just because you have a husband or boyfriend, does not
mean you can stop trying. It takes a little bit of effort to keep your
sex life from getting boring and non-existent. Some men cheat because
they want to try new sexual things that their current partner will not
try
10
Your lady doesn’t put out
Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her or becoming exclusive with her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start “working late” more often.
Every man has heard that the best way to get a woman to stop having sex with him is by marrying her or becoming exclusive with her. Apparently, long-term relationships seem to suck the sex drive out of many women, leaving men gasping for fulfillment. With the need for more sex, some men will start “working late” more often.
Or it could just be that the sex has
become boring. She doesn’t want to try new things in bed, or won’t
perform fellatio. Some men may cheat because they don’t want their
girlfriends or wives to perform certain sex acts that would ruin their
“good girl” image, so they get a mistress to take care of it. Like
Robert de Nero said in “Analyze This”, “That’s the mouth she kisses my kids good night with!”
In light of this, I call on lawmakers around the world to create an International BJ Day, where men and women get the day off from work and get all the oral satisfaction they need from their partners. I’ll bet that this alone would cut infidelity by at least 75%. (SMILING COYLY)
In light of this, I call on lawmakers around the world to create an International BJ Day, where men and women get the day off from work and get all the oral satisfaction they need from their partners. I’ll bet that this alone would cut infidelity by at least 75%. (SMILING COYLY)
9
She cheated on you
So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they’ve had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that’s efficiency (SMILING KNOWINGLY)
So you found out your lady was being unfaithful, and the only way you can relieve your anger is by doing the same. For many men, this is the only way to get back at their cheating girlfriends and even the score. Some men might even cheat to get back at all the cheating women they’ve had the misfortune of dating throughout their lives; now that’s efficiency (SMILING KNOWINGLY)
8
It’s challenging and exciting
The “high” of a challenge – From a young age, men love a challenge. From board games to computer games, most are centered on conquering and winning. In adult life, the ability and wit a man uses to get away with cheating on his wife or girlfriend provides a sense of winning or accomplishment. In addition, men love the challenge of finding other women to cheat with. Sure they enjoy the sexual part of the affair, but the sneaking around and pursuit is what really drives the man to be unfaithful. The ability to orchestrate the other woman in his life when then stakes are so high, gives him a buzz.
The “high” of a challenge – From a young age, men love a challenge. From board games to computer games, most are centered on conquering and winning. In adult life, the ability and wit a man uses to get away with cheating on his wife or girlfriend provides a sense of winning or accomplishment. In addition, men love the challenge of finding other women to cheat with. Sure they enjoy the sexual part of the affair, but the sneaking around and pursuit is what really drives the man to be unfaithful. The ability to orchestrate the other woman in his life when then stakes are so high, gives him a buzz.
If you consider the women you sleep with
“sexual trophies,” chances are you have already cheated at least once
in your life. Some men simply cannot leave behind the thrill of the
hunt, the chase and the conquest. For other men, the excitement is in
the variety, like changing ice cream flavors for one day after years of
sticking to just one.
7
You can get away with it
“What eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel,” goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.
“What eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel,” goes the old adage, and it still holds true, as long as there are no cameras around. The knowledge that no one will find out and no one will get hurt is reason enough for some men to grab a different helping. But be careful; as men get craftier with avoiding detection, women get more sophisticated with detecting, not to mention boosting their network of spies.
6
It boosts your ego
Stroking the “invisible” male organ – If there is one thing that men love more than their genitals being stroked, is stroking their invisible male member – his ego! The ability for him to find multiple women who want to engage in physical intimacy does wonders for his self-esteem. Being able to attract other women can temporarily blind his sense of right and wrong. However, the desire to reinforce their attractiveness to women which drives them to having affairs stems from a deep rooted lack of self-esteem.
Stroking the “invisible” male organ – If there is one thing that men love more than their genitals being stroked, is stroking their invisible male member – his ego! The ability for him to find multiple women who want to engage in physical intimacy does wonders for his self-esteem. Being able to attract other women can temporarily blind his sense of right and wrong. However, the desire to reinforce their attractiveness to women which drives them to having affairs stems from a deep rooted lack of self-esteem.
Nothing lifts the old self-esteem like
discovering that other women still desire you sexually. When in
long-term relationships, men may begin to question their sexual
marketability, which will lead some of them to sow their clandestine
wild oats. Once a man knows he can get back in the game, he’ll return to
his mate; or not. (GRINNING WICKEDLY)
What’s a guy to do when his girlfriend’s-a-naggin’ and opportunity comes-a-knockin’?
5
The opportunity was there
It’s an uncontested fact that most men can’t say “NO” to sex. Although guys aren’t constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it’s a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it’s a horny hottie on the dance floor at “tonight’s club”. A guy may see it as a once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe Diem, as they say.
It’s an uncontested fact that most men can’t say “NO” to sex. Although guys aren’t constantly bombarded with sexual offers, sometimes an irresistible prospect presents itself. Maybe it’s a frisky ex-girlfriend, maybe it’s a horny hottie on the dance floor at “tonight’s club”. A guy may see it as a once-in-a-lifetime occasion that might never be available again. Carpe Diem, as they say.
4
Your girlfriend is a nag
Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant Nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache.
Most men have experienced at least one woman who thrives on making him feel like crap. Constant Nagging, fighting and squabbling in the right ratios is the best recipe for a headache.
Cheating with another woman is a common escape from this domestic hell, and works better than aspirin.
3
Women let us
Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it’s their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men’s infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. Just ask Bill Clinton.
Truth be told, women are quick to forgive men for their unfaithful behavior. Maybe it’s their fear of being alone, or that women are simply the more merciful ones of the human species. Some women might even blame themselves for their men’s infidelities, and take steps to improve their relationships. The fact that many women let their men get away with murder might compel them to double deal repeatedly. Just ask Bill Clinton.
2
She doesn’t turn you on anymore
Long-term relationships and marriages have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had.
Long-term relationships and marriages have the annoying habit of making people lazy. No longer concerned with staying fit and attractive, a committed woman might lose the allure she once had.
Her man may simply not find her beautiful anymore, and making love to
her is not as stirring as it once was. This is why most mistresses are
gorgeous, young women.
Turn this picture upside down to see how she looks before marriage.
1
You don’t love her anymore
Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you.
Alas, after a long time together, you have lost the feelings you once had for her. But the relationship has remained too much a part of you.
Separating seems so painful, so radical
that it’s almost inconceivable. So instead of separating, you go
elsewhere to get your physical gratification. Most times this does not
help matters, but only prolongs the inevitable breakup.
And I’ll talk to you again soon
Your Friend,
Olamide Dasilva
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