Finding your MRS.

The problem with men these days is that they claim to know what they need but are forever after what they want. Women have their faults too but I am not here for the ladies today. When I chat with people, whether online or offline, I try to do so with intelligent people. During the cause of these discussions, we talk about different things from their ambitions and even on to who they would want to spend the rest of their valuable life with. Now you will find out that they know the kind of woman they would want as a better half. It’s all neatly stored up somewhere in their head, nice. However, look at the girls they are attracted to, absolutely opposite, then I can only wonder. Idikwa okay?

Some of them go as far as keeping the ones with about 70% attribute of their needs in a woman at standard room’s length just because of something very stupid and flimsy as a reason. A friend told me he couldn’t get serious with a particular girl all because she stays on the mainland and he on the island. That was the ONLY wrong thing he could see about the lady in question. Island to mainland? In the same Lagos state o. Then a friend’s friend once told me he couldn’t date a girl only because she doesn’t dress in a particular way. From our discussion I realized he wasn’t expecting her to dress trashy or anything close to that (neither was she), he just wanted her to put on decent stuffs that are in-vogue and maybe kinda look expensive. I was weak. If you think this lady in question has the attributes you need as a wife, why let her go just because of a want. A want that can be changed? You want her to dress in a particular way, why don’t you buy them if you are sure serious about dating this girl. Of course you won’t have to start spending your money on a lady when you ain’t sure she is on same page with you but you can at least take out time to be sure she is on same page and ready to go the long road with you. Some even stay away from such lady because of some stored up assumptions……assumptions ooo! What happened to talking and getting things straight?

I know some of you will think I am here again just to support the ladies, far from that. I know finding a life partner is not as easy as it sounds. There are men out there saddened with the burden of looking for a wife. They are ready to settle down but their brain cells won’t let them make the right choice. Let’s not talk about the ones who feel every lady coming around them wants their money or is it the ones who have class issues?

“Ahem!, you know that guy who was dating a particular babe when his blessings has not blown then suddenly he feels the girl isn’t up to his standard anymore, so he has to upgrade. He is still upgrading as I type and the babe is struggling to get over the heart break and move on.”

Yea, that’s how fucked up we are. And that how our little act of stupidity and pride affects someone else’s. As much as it can be a bit difficult to see through some ladies pretense, you can also help yourself. Look beyond the physical things you see and get attracted to. Companionship has a lot to do with your intellectual and spiritual compatibility more than the physical.

As for the younger ones who are not of marriageable age yet (not like there is a set age that I know of though), stop playing around with every Julie, Juliana and Justina. I think this is a perfect time to have someone who understands you, someone who believes in you and your dream, someone you can grow with, someone who will support your every move and add the little she can. It’s better now than later and that is if you truly want a companion rather than just jumping into to the marital institution just because that is what is expected of you. It’s not the time to top up your body count because you are a man and would need to brag about it at 17:59 when you and your friends sit at that table.

All I am saying is, Look out for that person who gives you the attention and have genuine interest in what you are about. There are ladies who are just awesome friends like that though, don’t misinterpret simple friendly gesture for her being in love with you. Look around you and help yourself. Look out more for your needs and stop letting your wants deceive you.