Ode To The Single Girl

Lots of Times,  people assume a lot about being, they think Single means, she No See Husband, single means she’s a slut, single means, Oniranu, Bazawara in hausa language used to Chastise innocent single women,  single means Freedom, most have no idea,  even the married ones that were once Single has forgotten what it’s truly like, that being single means you cry yourself to sleep most of the time


Yes we all put on a bravado Faces Like the Champions that we are, with our makeup on fleek, with our heels on the pavements we strut like models, we dare not go out without make up, just the day you didn’t is when you meet the fine guys, as a single girl you always have to leave your house like today is the day you are running into him.

We face the world, we wake up each day with the strength of a gladiator we get out of bed, with the hope and faith of a godly woman we face the day. but no One Actually understand all that is, what it really is.

Deep inside us is this sense of longing a Crave For a particular need. Single Means you’ve Been Hurt and betrayed so much you’ve forgotten What You Were Like Before The First Hurt. Being single means you sort everything out yourself, I Mean Everything. 

Being Single, you really can’t Afford To be down with Malaria because who then is going to sort out the day, yeah we have friends, but they can only do so much, even my friend is fighting her own battle. 

Being Single, turns you to a handy woman, you know how to wash the plug from your Generator, you know how to fix things around the house, your phone is a general directory of all service man and woman, e.g, Sunday Gen, Murphy Electrician, Samson AC etc. 

Being single,  all you see on social media are couples, couples couples everywhere, then you begin to ask yourself is something wrong with me?  Every guy you meet isn’t fully available, he’s either in a relationship or just got married or has been married with many wives, or he’s being married or someone just own the poor guy. 

Being single you compromise, you endure you tolerate, then you Become So Experienced You Get Over Qualified. OH, we all know guys don’t like over qualified, just like no employer ever, they Fear you Will Overtake Them.

My Dear Single Friend, he’s still going to show,  he’s still going to come,  he’s being delayed for a lot of reasons, he probably Needs To Be a better version of himself before God bring you guys together, he’s being washed polished re modelled just for you, and it could be because you need to achieve something Or Go Through Something’s Before You are Ready For Him.  And It could be that, Your True Purpose For This World is Bigger Than All of this, it could be for a particular reason that you are sent into this world.

I salute my fellow single ladies, no one looks at us and gives thumps Up And say you dey try oo, no One pats Your back or hug cos they just know what it’s like, they really don’t know, trust me only us knows. 

The beautiful thing is when he finds you, you will forget also, what it was like being single. However, I believe there is light at the end of each of our tunnel. 

This morning I embrace us all. We Will Be Just Fine And We Will Be Happy, he will find U And you will discover yourself if that’s your purpose, you will Evolve if that’s what you are called for. 

May the odds always be in our favor.

As For me and by no authority but of myself I declare today Singles Day,